Voicing Love
As an introvert, I have metformin 1000 mg tab had many hurdles in showing extroverts, particularly my husband, my deep love and appreciation. Even after countless conversations about what my husband needed to hear from me and how he desired I communicate, I was generally mystified about his true needs.
I’ve made several mistakes in this area. I’ve heard only what I’ve wanted to hear. I’ve communicated according to my needs only. I’ve held back (withheld). I’ve played the martyr or victim to remain in control. For such a simple request on my beloved’s part, why was I so stubborn?
If you find yourself facing a situation where someone is wanting love from you, do not hold back. Give of yourself fully. Recognize that the love is a true gift to you. Don’t shun it. Voice your appreciation, frequently (especially an introvert to an extrovert). As an introvert, don’t be afraid that repeated affirmations of love and caring over time will sound hollow. When people who have opened themselves up to you, they are left incredibly vulnerable. This vulnerability carries with it a certain degree of insecurity. For this reason, being vocal is one of the most important things you can do to reaffirm, time and again, your deep feelings towards the other. This should never be neglected nor taken lightly. Understand that kind and loving words on a consistent basis will go a long way. This is the start to healing a relationship that has experienced scarring.
There is a story (which I will probably butcher as I attempt to paraphrase it) about a young boy with a bad temper. Each time his temper flared, his father had him pound a nail into a fence. Over time, he learned to control his anger. At the point where he could manage his temper and didn’t need to pound nails into the fence, his father directed him each day to take out a nail from the fence. When he finished he received praise for his work, but was also reminded by his father that given the holes, the fence could never fully be restored. When we let our tempers flare and use harsh words, just like the holes in the fence, the wounds we cause through careless words can never be fully erased. Remember that each time you neglect to use kindness in your speech you cause pain. Every time you communicate through anger, you again cause scarring. We all carry the imprints of this type of wounding on our souls. What right do we have to inflict this upon another?
If you have been unloving by being careless with your words, or withholding in your communication, realize that the damage you have caused is difficult to undo. Acknowledge your mistakes. Make a consistent effort to be vocal, letting only words of peace pass between you and your beloved. Use your kind speech as a gift to another, with the only intention of building up, not tearing down. By recognizing that the love you have from another is a true blessing, not an entitlement, celebrate all the ways in which you can bring joy and peace to the ones whom you are most intimate with.
In peace and light,
Nicole
